I responded by email asking what she wanted to talk about as you had suggested, R2C.
W:
“I would like to talk about things since communicating this way (email] leaves a lot of misunderstanding.
If we don’t have an agreement, then we will have different expectations when it comes time to sell the house. This needs to be decided in writing.
We need to choose a separation date, and if you just start paying the mortgage, that is only one element. I need more information.”
I have started to pay the whole mortgage and utilities for the matrimonial home where I live with S as advised by my L now that I have progressed with my return to work. Right now, my L is drafting up a separation agreement so that we are ready. I don’t want it to come directly from L right now - again I don’t want to do the heavy lifting for something I don’t want but I need to be prepared. And I may want it soon enough.
I want to separate finances more but not split up our assets because I don’t want to incur financial loss and negatively impact my family (without W)’s standard of living unnecessarily. I have worked out a good financial strategy for me and family. And it will be sound even if we do split everything up - oh and I do not want to seek the house certainly not now, I am working out a plan to hopefully buy her out.
