I would like input from the board on how to have the divorce conversation.
I believe actions speak louder than words. This goes for both you and her. You need to take action. You need to see her take positive action.
Obviously there are serious issues that both of you need to address. There are always more fingers pointing back at ourselves.
Her drinking defenately affects her ability to parent. (If you stay together or seperate). Figuring out how to address this should trump if you stay together or seperate. I am not an expert in this area, but you can do lots of research into this. Strong boundaries are needed.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712