One of the things that has helped me keep it together during conversations with my W has been "how would this look if I posted it to the DB boards tomorrow?". It seemed silly at first but it's worked pretty well. I ask myself what am I trying to accomplish with this conversation and in general, what are the guidelines that R2C, Kind, Boat, DnJ, MrP and others have given me and what has worked in the past, and generally it's helped me to make progress in my life.
I can also say that other sitches I've read about here from both very old and active threads have helped me to manage expectations in my own sitch.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
