Then share your family net worth with them. Then they can decide how much of that they want, agree to argue with each other for as many billable hours it will take to drain you both. After all of your net worth is gone, they will decide to settle so you will not have to go before a judge to make the final decisions.
Put the cookie on the table (all your assets/debt). One person gets to split the cookie. The other person gets to pick which half they want. Do not quibble about the crumbs.
You let her split the cookie first. If your part looks significantly bigger. accept her split. , If her part looks significantly bigger, break off a part that makes it even. If she agrees, great. If not go to the mediator.
Right now, you have almost the whole cookie. You can eat as much of the cookie as you want until the divorce paper work is filed with the courts.
Just out of curiosity, but what about the last 2 plus years makes you think Rock can handle this on his own? Let’s say he’s on the up and up. How much is his mental health worth? He doesn’t take any advice at all. He hasn’t learned the basics, but keeping him planted, right where he is you think is the best option? He's been talking about this for over a year. The same back and forth about getting this even started.
But yeah let’s let Rock, who still can’t stay away for a holiday, yeah let’s let him do all the talking and negotiating with his W, who knows exactly how to get what she wants out of him and has had years to get ready for this. What’s that gonna look like without a lawyer.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
