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[DnJ]

Oh my goodness. Divorce is not some rose petalled path. Kind and thoughtful? Seriously?!? It’s not marriage counseling, she’s asking for a divorce. Oh how they do try to ease their conscience and guilt. Sheesh. Affairs, betrayal, lying, etc.

Rock, I got all kinds of alarm bells going off when I read her reply. Does this sound like her? Or does it sound like she getting some coaching?

And her statement of neither of you, her, having no education or knowledge of divorce, is BS! After all this time, she expects you to believe she’s not googled divorce. Doesn’t know the likely arrangements. Doesn’t know your rights. Doesn’t know what you can waive and what you cannot. In my opinion, she’s got a plan, or trap, and she wants you to walk/play right into it.

Stick to your guns and path. Let her do the heavy lifting.

However, that being said about heavy lifting, how do you want the assets split up? Do you have a reasonably fair arrangement where you can keep the house, or sell it, whichever way you’d wish to do it. Maybe you want to have your lawyer draft up a proposal and send it to her. You can well place the ball in her court that way.

Take a few days, or a week, before replying to her. (If you even do.) There is no question in there, or anything that requires a quick response.

Don’t worry about upsetting her. I mean, what’s she going to do, divorce you?

This is likely the biggest financial decision of your life. Don’t go it alone. Have professional guidance. And take all the time you need.

How are the mountains? Clear skies? Lots of stars?

Here for you buddy.

D