H saw OW a handful of times over Christmas. During this time he could be angry and cold towards me but also so passionate it was like the very first time.
A week after she left, he was back home and we started to settle a bit into a new dynamic. He then dropped the bombshell that he felt closer to me than he had in years. Since before the issues we'd had 4 years previous. Apparently he'd never quite felt the same after I'd threatened to leave and he had a breakdown. He put up barriers to stop being hurt again. I had no idea, he seemed just the same.
He then went mad when I said I'd been talking to someone else. The previous week he was insistent he wasn't jealous of me being with someone else and hoped I'd find someone nice. It was a complete turnaround. He said he couldn't stand the thought of it when we'd had such a good week,
Since then, he can't do enough for me but still plans to leave. He said a few days ago he is still in love with me and deeply cares for me but thinks it's unfair to stay as he is 'in love' with OW. Plus I've told too many people he's a cheat and left me for someone else. Tellingly he then said he felt 'What option do I have, we can't go backwards?' and 'I've made my bed and I need to lie in it'. Very much sounded like he has serious doubts. The description of the emotional distancer sounded very much like him - no capacity to change regardless of changing circumstances.
