Stay tuned ill keep you updated how this story unfolds, but so far as hard as single parenting is, I would never in my wildest dreams trade it for a job on the other side of the world
I went for a run with a friend today. He’s going through a midlife crisis of his own right now. Marriage is struggling, 2 young kids. I thought of your H and other situations I’ve read on here in the past. I encouraged him that midlife crises are normal, and the worst ones are when the person in crisis can’t even see the fact that they’re in one (“Pattnee’s H” was flashing in my head). He has been hyper aware of his and has been trying to feel it out and work his way through it. He’s still struggling but he needed to know how ahead of the game he really is.
Anyway, the reason I quoted this is because during the jog, we talked about my situation some. I said something very similar. When talking about controlling what we can control (ourselves), I said I couldnt make either of my xW’s stay, but to this day, it shocks me how suddenly they chose to give up 1/2 of their time with their young child for an escape. I said it would have taken something immense for me to do that. And in your H’s case, the even bigger leap of cutting them out altogether. I can follow the logic of a crisis but have trouble empathizing.
Take care. Btw, I’m screwing up my sleep in order to watch Djokovic try to come back in the AO semis. I always love the tournament. Love seeing people sweat in the heat during the US winter haha
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
