That her behavior was not acceptable for anyone who wanted to be in a relationship with me and was running counter to the best interests of the family.
This is the message that has now been delivered.
The consequences of this boundary thus far have been me vacating my role of husband: we no longer socialize together and I don't provide emotional support. She is still enjoying (for now) the full benefit of my provisioning. If she does not turn around and show real remorse and do what it takes to reconcile she will only be provided with what the state says I owe her. At this moment in time I don't believe she values me or the MR enough to worry about losing it, but she is concerned with the social stigma and the kids. That is as far into her head as I care to get, and even then it's speculation. I meet with my L in two weeks.
If any good whatsoever comes of this mess it will be that I am well equipped to educate my sons and daughter on the realities of long term relationships. Yes, I am just another guy from a "perfect couple" who got cucked and embarrassed. I'll be damned if it happens to my kids.
