Ok Steve, let me see if I can explain further and then you can slap me straight
Originally Posted by SteveLW
"feel compelled to try connecting with my wife so I can "fix" things with some good sex."
I am acknowledging that I want to do this, but that it is not a good idea because it's coming from a place of fear/insecurity rather than wanting to truly connect and give. Had Saturday's conversation never happened I wouldn't be in a rush to have sex with her the way I feel I am now.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
Also, be careful with the flirting. I'm not a big fan of engaging in that behavior IF your goal is to reconcile. Again it's counter-productive and conflicts with your aim. Plus you'd be angry if she engaged in similar behavior. And also can easily lead to you cheating. Especially since LBSs are often very vulnerable.
One of my 180s has been to engage as many strangers each day as I can in order to rebuild confidence. And if those strangers happen to be attractive women, I am okay with playful flirting. I know where the lines are and wouldn't cross them.
