So long as she is not violating your core boundaries, it's a fine line of not accepting crap behavior and disrespect, working on yourself/GAL, and listening and validating her so you can begin to speak her love languages better as/when she approaches you with a desire to work on the R.
I pulled this quote from a post earlier in this thread because it provides a good summary of the roadmap from here. I'm still very much struggling with the revelations from last Saturday and feel compelled to try connecting with my wife so I can "fix" things with some good sex. Dumb idea, driven by fear. I need to step back and accept what I've been told, focus on myself, and continue the 180s/GAL.
A good mantra for this moment is "I am strong enough to handle criticism and confident enough to tackle my problems head on".
Yesterday I went to AT&T to get a new phone and remove my line from our family plan. We now have two separate accounts: one for me, one for her. Just a small step I decided to take as a precursor to whatever may come next, because the timing was right. It also makes things easier from an expense perspective with work.
I was heavily flirting with the young lady working there and she was fully into it, which was fun. These are skills that I have always kept somewhat sharp but I can definitely improve. When I leave the house now I talk to EVERYONE I can - it's fun and helps with "approach anxiety" with women if/when I am back in the game for real.
