“please email me your proposal and I will look it over.”
That was my thought as well.
Touch base with L and see if they recommend mediation or not. Personally, I’d start without mediation. Really no custody issues, so it’s just assets, and joint education (and some other) expense for the kids. (My locale that is until 25).
When negotiating (when you can) let W speak first and often. You might be surprised what she places value upon.
You know your worst case, best case, and likely case. An offer that is fair, or even more in your favour, might occur right out of the gate if W is eager or feeling a lot of shame/guilt.
I’ll say it again, always craft and run proposal, and revisions, through your lawyer. As even-keeled as one is, the L is more. They are removed from matters, and experts in the field. It’s what you’re paying them for. Besides, the agreement is going to end up going through your L anyhow, might as well have their guidance and legal language as you go.
Treat this as a business deal gone sideways.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
