Steve, I have read your threads for sure. Along with R2C and others they've been very helpful. To be honest, I read them as motivation to keep going when I get very discouraged and the last few days have been no exception.
The revelation that W is not happy w the SL is like starting at square one in some sense. Before hearing that, I had really internalized the idea that I am the prize, and was detaching and moving forward while dropping the rope. GAL, 180s, the works. I felt my confidence growing, and noticed her noticing the distance. She was asking questions in a jealous way ("where were you today?" and "Do you think so and so is cute?"). Now it's like I want to play "pick me" - not against OM, but the idea that she is considering the fact that she would have a more fulfilling SL with some other made up dude. I'm re-reading old journal entries from the last few years when she told me outright that we have good sex. It's a real mind-eff. I plan to talk to my IC about it during today's session.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
If you read my threads you'll see that within a few weeks she was initiating sex with me more frequently than at any other time in our marriage.
Can you point me to this thread, or around the time this may have happened and I can explore? Not looking to apply your approach per se, just get some color.
Trying very hard to not believe what she says, but boy do those words cut like a knife!
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