Does she make the 'open but don't tell' marriage proposals when she is sober too or just when drunk?
Re: sex attractions, consider that her resentments or turn offs about you did not happen overnight and built up over time maybe partly related to activities in the bedroom. Now that you have gotten PE treatment, those experiences might gradually change. What other 180's might be possible to change things up there so that she sees you in a new light?
The angry not attracted to you talk also is carrying other resentments/negative emotions unrelated to the sex. The listening and validation can help to unpack those.
And it can change
When she was first attracted to you, were there any things different about you then (physically, emotionally, activties) or in the way you interacted with/talked to her as compared to now?
In my case for example, one of the things I had forgotten is that I used to always flirt with my W in a dominating way. I had stopped doing that at some point and just treated her like my partner, wife, friend, and mom of my kids. Like I had almost friend zoned myself with her. And I rediscovered that she was re-attracted when I acted that flirtatiously dominant way towards her. I found I did it naturally again with other women while we were separated and they responded to it, and that made me realize I had stopped doing it with my spouse. Do you interact with her any differently than when she was pursuing you and turned on by you?
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
