Thanks for the quick response P. I needed a second opinion/perspective. Somewhere in the overly long convo I did say that I did not violate a marriage vow in response to her asking who I talked to and allegations of me cheating on her. In hindsight I see how this phrasing could also have come off judgmental in a way I didn’t see in the moment … which I regret a little.
In order to get her off the phone I said we’d talk later but I’ve realized there’s really nothing to talk about. She doesn’t want to R and I dont want to disclose who I’m talking to. Convo closed (for now).
A couple other notes about the past two weeks. I read NMMNG. The crazy part is that I started reading to this summer/fall and thought it was silly and wrong at the time. When I read it last week I was shocked at how much I agreed with it and how much resonated with me. It was the first and closest “evidence” that I’ve been successful in making changes. There were one or two things in the book that still felt a small reach so I know I have more road to to travel. I literally could not have imagined it would have been possible to read the same book from that far different perspective.
One other comment is that the last three days/nights through yesterday W would cry at times. I would ask what was wrong once or twice each instance/day and then drop it. She never did share any of the three days.
