One of the posters (DNJ??) has challenged other posters to stop using the BUT statements.
Yes, I am one of the folks who does promote less use of the word “but”. But, usually concatenated two contrasting viewpoints in order to reinforce or demonstrate the perceived impossibility of other views or change. For folks going through such a life upheaval as these situations, limiting possibilities is less helpful. Also, but is sometimes used to justify something that one knows they should not do, or would be better not doing.
My caution regarding word choice (our minds are always listening and will craft one’s reality as one asks) is not judgmental; it is for one to see, or foresee, their reasoning. Seeing more clearly and therefore making better and clearer statements and decisions going forward.
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I don't have a lot of friends so not much on social life but I like to be home with my kids anyway.
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I don't have a lot of friends so not much on social life.
I like being home with my kids.
But ties things together when they really are separate. Don’t want to tie your social life with being home with kids. That can lead to resentments. For example, kids have something come up - school, birthday, whatever - and you need to look after them. But I was going to go to the movies. But I had plans. But I…
Kids are important. Your social life is important. True, there is a hierarchy, yet both can exist and be balanced. “But” not only allows the current status quo, it reinforces it incorrectly. Prevents you from discovering wonderful opportunities and possibilities.
Your coworkers on the volunteer fire department sound like good folks. You have a good working relationship with them. And they have your back. Keep “but” out of it. Don’t muddy it up on yourself. (IMHO )
Originally Posted by jesseiht
Day by day I realize that I am more than just the deputies wife and I have a lot to be proud of myself for.
Absolutely!
A firefighter. Getting your GED. Paying off your debts. Purchased a new car. Looking after your kids. Fantastic. Good for you! Quite the gal.
Originally Posted by jesseiht
I really will pass my test.
I’ve no doubt!
Have a great day.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
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