Maturin - My Story (2)

[Ready2Change]

I messed up a bit y'day.

I am not sure you messed up.

Everyone in this room lied to me for years, and I don't want anything to do with it anymore."

This is a true statment. Nothing wrong with saying this. You are not letting fear control you.

At first I was calm and told her "I won't repeat myself, you know what needs to happen for D to be avoided". She began to cry

If she is crying out of remorse, that is a good thing.

I began to argue with her, and brought up all the wayward behaviors and sexlessness of the marriage. She became defensive, telling me sexlessness is completely normal. I told her I wouldn't have any of it: the lying, the betrayal, the dead bedroom. It was just a mess. Overall it didn't last long and we both went to bed, but it represents some real backsliding on my part.

Again, I don't think you messed up. As long as you keep focused on remaining calm and controling your emotions rather than letting your emotions control you. Most here are arguing the point of why they want to stay married (completely disregarding that there are serious issues that need to be addressed (And truely heard).