Not Lost Anymore!Being the best version of ME!

[Sunflyer]

Wonderful to hear an update from you, Pattnee. By now, you have made it through his departure, and of course you would. Lucky us here in the USA; we have him now (lol).

The old marriage and relationship is long dead. I don’t want that back anyway. I don’t want one filled with the lies and secrets and anger and blame and deceits. I want one full of honesty and trust and no secrets. Any chance H and I may have really needs to rebuild something new. However that’s not what he wants right now.

You and he are not just on different pages now, but on different chapters. And yours will be far more enjoyable to read than his.

I agree MRP there is a lot of guilt and shame in his telling me to date. To be honest I don’t even think he means it, but is saying it to relieve his shame. Good luck to him if he thinks dating is going to miraculously make him happy for 5 minutes. He is reliving his youth of being 20 and likely wanting to sleep around and make up for lost time and feel like he is still wanted and still “has it’. It’s very sad as he is almost 50 and acting like an absolute goose but can’t see it. The maturity level in these people who are in this fog is hilariously ridiculous.

You nailed it. My W = same. More cosmetic surgery than she needed to recover from her weight loss and now off with a guy 19 years younger than I am (whose marriage lasted less than five years and is now back to living with his parents presumably due to post-divorce financial fallout). Well...if she thinks this is gold, she is welcome to him.

As for me I am good. Do I want to date? Not really not right now and to be honest it’s none of his business if I do or don’t. My focus is me, the kids, family and friends and filling my life with joy and happiness( one thing H does not have)

Nope, not his business.

Coincidentally, today, I got this from W: "May I ask you a brutally honest question? Are you seeing someone?"

I gave up nothing. Why does she think she is entitled to this information? She hasn't been forthcoming about her AP.

Maybe she has noticed the slimmer guy with the shorter haircut, dressed nicely, and smelling of aftershave who regularly spends more time out of the house? If so, great, but it's not for her. It's for me, and I am liking me more and more every day.

You're doing great, Patt. I like to think your future's so bright, you gotta wear shades!

SF