2nd Time Around (Thread #2)

[DnJ]

Good Morning P

You are walking an excellent path. Regarding D, continue to only respond to W, and leave her to the heavy lifting.

Most of my property is pre-marital so, thanks to my L, I have a good sense of how those chips will fall if the D becomes final.

Speaking with a lawyer and knowing your rights and likely outcome, as well as best and worse case scenarios, is most wise.

In some ways, being better prepared for a D makes the other half of DBing easier for me.

Absolutely. Knowing the business side of this allows one put more of their efforts into their emotional healing path.

I continue to focus on me and D13, remain aloof and positive when around W, and am glad for the support of this community. I can see W is struggling and sad. While I wish I could say and do more, I'm even more fired now than I was a day ago.

“I'm even more fired now than I was a day ago.” That is a good outlook. Now make hay. Time and space. Let her feel her choices.

I can offer the support I'd offer a friend if they ask. Otherwise, W is getting lots more time and space.

I’d likely would not provide the same support as I would a friend. After all, are you and her, friends?

And I haven't even bought my usual 1-2 Christmas presents for myself yet so I've got to find some time to pick those up this weekend too.

Now you can get those presents on sale.

D