It’s not about physical space, it’s about emotional space.
I understand the idea, it just seems that emotional space would be that much easier to create when physical space is there as well. This is what I've noticed: when I am taking the kids away overnight or I'm on work trips, the stress level and tension over these issues dissipates. I am physically apart from my W and I sense more peace. I'm thinking about a future without her as my W where I am free from the nonsense, rejection, and disrespect.
As a man I want to take leadership of the MR and fix these problems. I know that is not the DR way ("you cannot fix her, for you did not break her" is one of the first things DnJ wrote to me).
I turn 40 next month, perhaps that is why I'm having a hard time with the "patience" thing. I feel the sands of time slipping through the hourglass.
