I am moving forward into this new year hopeful. Partway through this Christmas season, I noticed a shift that I started to sense excitement about my future.
I think really getting my first few month of work successfully under my belt helped along with some financial decisions strengthening my retirement and investment strategies. And the consistent support and advice from these boards is very appreciated (DB has been and continues to be a learning process for me.
Rockon, this is a good start. But remember your 6 month goals and work towards them. Your shift is due to a feeling (sense of excitement). That is fleeting. Your shift should be based on action!
So focus on the actions that will help to bring about your 6 month goals.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Go to youtube and watch CaseyZander Dec 11 2023 - Satisfy WOMEN'S Hypergamy multiple times. Take lots of notes. He is young, but you can gain some great insites into how to behave to gain attraction with women.
It is just one peice of the big jigsaw puzzle we are all trying to solve.
I wish you well
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Go to youtube and watch CaseyZander Dec 11 2023 - Satisfy WOMEN'S Hypergamy multiple times. Take lots of notes. He is young, but you can gain some great insites into how to behave to gain attraction with women.
It is just one peice of the big jigsaw puzzle we are all trying to solve.
I wish you well
So this guy is essentially preaching celibacy. I agree that a man saying 'no' is powerful, but he makes it seem like you are to never sleep with them, lay on the couch with them, etc.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
Go to youtube and watch CaseyZander Dec 11 2023 - Satisfy WOMEN'S Hypergamy multiple times. Take lots of notes. He is young, but you can gain some great insites into how to behave to gain attraction with women.
It is just one peice of the big jigsaw puzzle we are all trying to solve.
I wish you well
So this guy is essentially preaching celibacy. I agree that a man saying 'no' is powerful, but he makes it seem like you are to never sleep with them, lay on the couch with them, etc.
I'm not sure that's what he's saying. It's more like not to me a male slut if you want a woman to see you as high value.
Though I'm a big fan of celibacy before marriage myself
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
It's more like not to be a male slut if you want a woman to see you as high value.
Though I'm a big fan of celibacy before marriage myself
I believe this is ONE of the pieces of the puzzle. There are a lot of pieces that each of use figure out over time.
Each of us has to figure out what it means to be masculine. That definition is unique to each of us. We can draw from other mens POV to help us clarify our own.
I am sure if I watch that video again, I will get something different out of it.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Well not to get too far off the OPs topic here, but just a quick story.
When my XW and I met, it was at a wedding and we fooled around a bit that night. But we didn't go out on a date till a month or two later. After a few dates, she spent the night at my place. She said earlier that she wasn't sure if she was ready for us to have sex. So when she got into bed, I basically just rolled over and went to sleep. Didn't even try to touch her.
A few months, or maybe a year or two later, she told me that she knew I was 'serious relationship material' the night I didn't try to have sex with her.
So yes, there is a lot of value in practicing restraint, and not jumping at every opportunity.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
So do you think if you would have had sex that night you would have never gotten married because you were just another notch in her bed post?
Obviously that can't be answered, but you already knew that. What I do think is, she at least thought that I wasn't only interested in having sex with her, which was probably different from the other guys she dated before me.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
