I have kept an eye on the real estate market in my area so that I have an idea of what post-D costs may look like for me. Last night I noticed a fully furnished apartment had recently become available, all utilities paid (this is unusual for my area). It would be the perfect second place for us to use during a "nesting separation", which we had discussed at one point prior to me finding DR and this site. No major furniture moving at the outset, just pack a bag and cut a rent check.
The urge is strong to make a move here. I want there to be some kind of resolution, a "do it or get off the pot" moment. Sign the lease, create real space between us, and use that space to decide how I want to proceed.
Otherwise, what am I waiting for? Days, weeks, months of doing my 180s and GAL while watching W for signs that she wants to reconcile? Meanwhile I get older and life goes on. One point of frustration for me with this whole sitch is that W waited 3 years to tell me what she did. 3 years ago my kids were much younger: we could have divorced and the impact would have been entirely different for them.
Ok, enough whining from me.
For others here who have had to be in the driver's seat, how do you decide when you're done waiting? After years of wayward behavior and months of living like roommates I want there to be resolution. But I just re-read DnJ's earlier post in this thread and am considering the virtue in being patient.
