If your h starts relationship talks you can listen and if he is talking about the relationship in a negative way say "I'm sorry you feel that way) and then walk away or find something to do. One habit................................................................................................................................................moving forward. Trust me, we all have made many mistakes along the way and once you learn from them...you will discover that life gets a little easier.
Hang in there! Be kind to yourself, please do not beat yourself up...this is a work in progress, i.e., one step forward, two steps back.
thanks job,
yeah as i mentioned, i always look and dress nice, at least thats what I think.
about chores: we always divided chores. it was never the usual wife doing all the work. (that's why i dont think we are toxic, yeah we did establish toxic patterns that we were on the way to breaking before he called the quits) honestly, since he bd, he has been doing his laundry, cooking his meals (sometimes he cooks for his kid) and cleaning etc. HE basically (in a way) has taken away all the responsibilities from me, maybe he used to think it was a priviliged to do it for him who knows,,, so in a way its good , but in another way, its not because i can't stop doing something like u said and he will notice. and yeah i am unavailable most times, to him and kids often times now. i get ready nicely too all the time. may be R2C can give more on that?? next week, i have some volunteer work and some painting to do, and will learn how to skate pretty soon too. these are along with my job and workout routine.
