She went on to say, “I have told my mom, the explanation for why you are never with me or my family and you are always leaving instead of being with me must be that you have a girlfriend and your GF doesn’t want you to spend any time with me.”
Ahahahahahahahahha!!!!!
Textbook walk-away/wayward behaviour, I love it 😂😂😂
Maybe someone else will have a different perspective, but imo all you did is let her know you’re still available as the back up plan. She played you in my opinion.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
W’s detached and sans emotions explanation to her Mom and this BS that it’s ok since “we’re separated”, is her trying to justify what she’s doing.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I have made home tasteful and inviting for myself family and other guests. I am feeling loved.
Good! You are loved!
Continue to focus on you and the kids. Enjoy the holiday time with them. You did really well asking and listening to them about what and how they wanted to spend the holidays.
By the way, well done with your wording. Not one “but”. Well formed and clear. Nicely done my friend.
Have a great day.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Hey Rock. When W suggested that you have a girlfriend, I wonder if a response that shared less information with her would have been more helpful. You want to keep things about yourself largely a mystery. If it comes up again, consider something like "It sounds like you're feeling down" or "Gee, it must be terrible to think that".
These are examples I took directly from the "validation cheat sheet" on this site. I recommend memorizing a few sentences from that cheat sheet for future use. Even something like "We're separated. I feel uncomfortable talking about these topics" might help shut down more questions or comments.
I hope you and your kids have the best Christmas possible.
“I’m still her waiting for you, like a doormat. Doesn’t matter how bad you treat me, there will be no consequences. Here’s a green light for you to keep being a cheat and a liar.”
This was not a 180 at all. It’s exactly what you would have said 12 months ago.
Hey Rock. When W suggested that you have a girlfriend, I wonder if a response that shared less information with her would have been more helpful. You want to keep things about yourself largely a mystery. If it comes up again, consider something like "It sounds like you're feeling down" or "Gee, it must be terrible to think that".
These are examples I took directly from the "validation cheat sheet" on this site. I recommend memorizing a few sentences from that cheat sheet for future use. Even something like "We're separated. I feel uncomfortable talking about these topics" might help shut down more questions or comments.
I hope you and your kids have the best Christmas possible.
Never validate a cheat.
Best answer would have been “Why do you believe I only have ONE girlfriend?”
Best answer would have been “Why do you believe I only have ONE girlfriend?”
Only if this was an IN PERSON conversation, and you could do it with a wink and a twinkle in your eye and the right tone and inflections.....
Do not engage in this BS over text messages. Ignore everything unless it is DIRECTLY related to parenting, and then, think really hard on what is important to be discsussing.
Every time you engage, you lose. Crickets unless a child is heading to the hospital etc......
I wish you well.
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