One of the things I've enjoyed about this process is the "new me" I'm building. I've always been outgoing but my W likes to tell me and others that she is the social one and I'm introverted. The reality is that she wants to drink/party which she then reframes as "being social", whereas I enjoy spending time with folks whether the drinks are being poured or not. Now that I've shed the impulse to defend myself from accusations like this one, I'm much more at peace being myself and I make a point to talk to everyone.
I've always considered myself introverted, and W and her family certainly think so. I don't have social anxiety at all; I'm just more comfortable as a listener rather than a talker when in larger groups.
I tried a psychological test recently and was surprised when it scored me as an ambivert--introverted tendencies but extroverted "when necessary." So one of the things I'm doing is to look for situations that I can drop into where being extroverted is "necessary."
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
