Please someone Help !! Advice suggestions

[Ready2Change]

I am horrible at remembering everyones details, so I focus one post, as if everyone reading can possibly apply it to their world.

this is what i need support answers suggestions for:
but needed some genuine, practical and understanding advice about fixing/solving the marriage.

[quote=MiaRob]
what to look for , how to know if my strategy is working ?

I tell most that they are using the wrong measuring stick if they are looking for changes in their spouse. The true measuring stick is reflecting on each encounter and seeing if you behavied the way you wanted. Perfect example is when yelling was your old behavior. You decide not to do that anymore. You might feel like it, but you make a decision from several other options instead. That is how you know it is "working". You canged behavor to the way you wanted. You changing the way you interact forces the relationship to change.

what else needs to be done? or not done? any suggestions, changes advices?

Us men are simple creatures. I would focus on accentuating the sexual difference. Do things that allow him to feel his masculine engery. Dress nice, look nice, smell nice. Not really for him, but for you. You will feel good, and he will notice. Keep making positive changes to your behavior. Again, this is when you interact with everyone else (including him).

In each area of our lives, most of us have subconsious patterns of behavior. I learned to question everyone of mine and learn to behave at both extremes as well as places inbeteen as needed.

Example: Intoverts need to learn to be extroverted and extroverts need to learn intoverted behaviors.