Hi Mia. I will sound like a broken record at this point. My feedback would have been the same whether you shared information about the police or not. I largely set that to the side and focused on H's behavior towards you and your children. My intent is not to criticize or judge you. As several other people on this forum are saying, we 1) have been in situations similar to yours 2)felt similar pain and hopelessness and 3)try to offer one another comfort, support, and feedback we think may help. There are several great recommendations in this thread. I especially recommend finding an individual counselor and working your way out from there to determine help your children may need. There is the cliche advice about this being similar to what we're told to do on a airplane: first, get your own oxygen mask on and then help others around you. You deserve some time to practice significant self-care. The situation will be significantly harder if you focus on your H instead. Pursuing him is only going to drive him away and turn him off.
