he just nodded and told me I was being far to wierd and calm. I actually didn’t even care. I can only imagine the mess he has got himself into.
Oh Pattnee, you’re an absolute rock star 🤩. Your transformation has been remarkable. Sure, things are still difficult from time to time, but your self-confidence, objectivity, maturity and acceptance sets an example for every newbie who arrives here.
I expect now that you’re learning your own self worth, by the time he goes to the US and sees the mistake he’s made, it may well be too late.
Have you thought how you’re going to deal with your personal life once he’s gone? Someone like you is going to get noticed by men very quickly (if they haven’t started already) and I expect you’ll need a solid plan in place to avoid that temptation if saving your marriage is still what you really want. Better to have a plan sorted on how you’ll deal with that before he tries to run away from his demons by disappearing overseas.
Perhaps talking to your IC about how you’ll deal with it, and whether perhaps some sort of time limit on saving your marriage is your line in the sand - because truth be told, you won’t and shouldn’t live in limbo perpetually.
If you decide to go down R2C’s route of practicing harmless flirting, hanging out with men, reinventing yourself from an attractiveness point of view, you’ll need to have some good boundaries in place until you make your final decision about your husband.
