SF, this is very fair and completely within your rights. I am anti-divorce except in two cases: when there is toxic behavior (physical aggression or substance abuse) or for infidelity. As I am fond of telling any LBS, at anytime it is your right to decide YOU want a divorce and to go file yourself.
Keep us up-to-date.
Steve,
A quick summary since I know you won't have time to go through 200+ posts:
1.) She already filed, back in June. From the beginning, I have been realistic about my chances at saving this marriage, as she is a very decisive and stubborn woman. (I can be stubborn too, though for different reasons).
2.) BD was in May. Had two discussions, initiated by her, regarding D. She would not remotely consider working to repair the marriage. As I said, I figured chances were slim, but in retrospect, she was likely involved with OM1 (our son's coach) at the time and this would cement her resistance.
3.) Relationship with coach did not last long, as she was on to OM2 (current one) by September.
4.) Status of D is that I filed my financial statement in October; my L came back soon after and asked for more documents. I have been trying to put these together, although work and other aspects of life have delayed completion of this. I am motivated at this point to get this part done.
5.) Have not heard anything from her L regarding how much of her own paperwork has been submitted. Figured if she was done, perhaps her L would kickstart things by sending over a proposal, but crickets.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
