1) IC. This is not optional if you want to keep the changes you've worked so hard for from sliding away and becoming the person you used to be. 2) Having a good view on who you used to be and who you are now. And remembering that your spouse will start to question everything if you start to revert.
#2 answers your second question as well. You've got to be constantly vigilantly that the old man doesn't start creeping back in. It's very similar to giving your life to Christ. There are old behaviors your can no longer engage in and the minute you feel like you are back sliding, holding yourself accountable. Self-awareness is crucial, and only get that through IC.
I'm glad my experience can be useful for you, Maturin. And remember to pay it forward in the future!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
