You are so grounded and strong. Very nicely centered and balance. Peaceful.
You are so right about “his mess”. Yep. Breaking up, ending, that “friendship”. There eventually comes a day of reconning. Along with piles and piles of drama and stress. You handled it all great by the way.
Originally Posted by Pattnee5
I would say he’s only 18-20 months in so he’s still got another year or two left if he even manages to grow up and grow through it. I do hope the space and him being on the other side of the world is the kick up the ass he needs but he could also just stay like this way forever.
A crisis is as individual as each person. The length of their journey depends upon so many factors - their torments, the severity, their assigned severity, their upbringing, their predisposition to hide, lie, and bury things or face them head on, and so on. Some can traverse it in a few years and some are lost for a long long time. In the end, it’s his crisis and you (thankfully) were not invited.
I do wonder if H will continue his clingy boomerang behaviour over such distance and time zones. Or how he will try to. Kind of difficult to bring an apology coffee after a night of angry drinking from the other side of the globe. Not that it matters, just curious is all.
You’ve so got this Patt. Keep living and loving your life.
Wishing you and your’s a Merry Christmas and a blessed new year.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
