SF, so you found out about OM#1. What did it change? Your situation is your situation. And tl revelations about they past do not change that.
Obviously, in terms of my goals and moving forward, it changes nothing at all.
It may have, however, strengthened my feeling that I will be better off out of this marriage than in it.
I might feel more like a WAS at the moment than a LBS.
SF, this is very fair and completely within your rights. I am anti-divorce except in two cases: when there is toxic behavior (physical aggression or substance abuse) or for infidelity. As I am fond of telling any LBS, at anytime it is your right to decide YOU want a divorce and to go file yourself.
Keep us up-to-date.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
