You have asked for honest and sincere suggestions, and those that have replied have given them to you. They all boil down to the same thing: you need to concentrate on what is best for you right now, and working on what you are going through and healing from that. You need things to think about outside of your marriage problems. Go back and read those posts again, and read as much of the information in those links as possible. There is a lot of good stuff there. Think about it and absorb it.
I don’t know what the outcome of your situation will be, but if you and H can be reconciled, that is secondary at this point and is a long way off. You didn’t get into this situation in a few weeks or months, and you won’t get out of it in that time either. You need to be thinking of a much longer time frame than that.
If you hadn’t mentioned about calling the police, you would probably have gotten the same advice, and whether you mentioned it or not doesn’t change the fact that it happened, and if I read your story correctly, this was not the first time police were involved (called by others). In this case, saving the marriage can’t be the primary concern. I know if I were in a relationship where police had been involved, regardless of who called them, my safety would be my immediate concern above all else.
I hope for the best for you.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
