First I'm very sorry you're going through all of this. I know it's rough.
However, I have no advice for you. You've already put up roadblocks about what we can respond with. I guess my only advice is to reread your post from the perspective that you are one of the other posters here. If a stranger typed the above, what would you say to them?
Thank you for reading my long post. I understand. I made terrible mistakes here. none of our marriages comes with manuals and my roadblocks were unintentional. I failed to educate myself (early on) about all the strategies of marriage, u know, all the things people talk about on how to's and what to's.
I wouldn't know what to advise this person either, but that's why I wanted someone with wisdom or someone who has been in a similar situation to suggest something, instead of making more dumb decisions. Now that I have some insight into what and how things went wrong, I want a chance to fix it not ruin it further.
Mia, what I'm trying to get you to step back and see as that this is a toxic relationship. I know that is not what you want to hear. I know you want the magic fix, the one thing to do or say to stop the divorce. But my question is what are you trying to save? Aggression involving cops is a major major red flag. What I'd love is for you to step back, read your own post, and give an honest unbiased assessment of it.
Yes this is a divorce busting site, but even MWD would say that there are some marriages that shouldn't be saved.
I hope you take the advice in the spirit it's intended. God bless and I hope not nothing for the best for you.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Now that I have some insight into what and how things went wrong, I want a chance to fix it not ruin it further.
