I am so sorry you had to go through this. I can't fathom it, or how it must feel.
I want to reinforce Mach1's comment about not taking blame. It may be easy for guilt to creep in, while you are emotionally vulnerable.
Whatever happened between you two, anything you may or may not have done, did not cause her to behave as she did. We are all responsible for our choices and behaviors only, not anyone else's.
I hope that somehow you will heal and move forward from this. You will do it at your own pace, on your own time.
I hope for only the best for you and your family.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023