Been a while (almost a year) since I gave my update, I think I will take the opportunity.
It will be 6 years in 10 days since BD. The anxiety that date used to generate is entirely gone. I am happy to report that my marriage is still going strong. The last 5 1/2 years are the happiest years of any other point in our marriage. And I believe she would probably say the same. We continue to piece as I now truly believe, more than ever, that you never stop DBing. GAL, 180s and detachment (I prefer self-differentiation as the right term when you are talking about a happy marriage) are ongoing and you should never stop.
We are pretty much empty nesters at this point. My daughter went to school out of state, and then landed a job that she really likes. So she is full-time there and continuing to take classes. Crazy what a difference 6 years makes.
On a negative note, our best-friend couple are getting a divorce. He cheated, she found out and she feels she can never trust again. It is a big mess and has really put a wrinkle in our social life. They were a great couple to hang out with and do things with. Very compatible. We felt like we had struck the couple-friends lottery. If only WSs knew how many people would be affected by things like this. Not just their kids and extended families, but also friends and people in other social groups with them that care about them.
Occasionally we get posters here that are considering an affair or breaking up their marriage. All I can say is the lives you are messing with go much further and deeper than you could ever imagine.
So anyway, that is my update. Have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Oh, and if there are any former posters that lurk here, please consider posting and giving us an update! It is always uplifting to hear how people are thriving, no matter what ended up happening with their marriage.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
