I agree with Boat. It sounds like you may also want to prep for her potential reaction, I'd recommend reviewing the validation cheat sheet post and picking options for how you *might* respond like:
1. I can see how it would feel that way (or another version of "I understand/hear you"). 2. It sounds like you're feeling flustered (or another verb that most accurately describes what you're observing). 3. I can understand why you would be upset.
And, sometimes the best response is no response of course. Let her vent and keep focused on what's best for you and your kids.
