So after 3 years of presenting your best self this is how you are treated. What would you say to your son if you witnessed this behavior from his w for 3 years?
To be fair, I have only been approaching my best self for around 6 months. During the past 2-3 years I would make changes but backslide often, which usually meant being controlling and critical of her behavior. "You're acting like you're single" etc. Very "her" focused, not me focused. It finally clicked about 6 months ago that I need to change myself.
Originally Posted by Boat14
This fear of loss is going to be there until you face it.
Thanks, do you have any thoughts on how best to do that? I'm looking for ways to face it every day. Yesterday I found myself really down in the dumps and feeling hopeless, but by the evening I was much more optimistic about whatever the future holds. I do think these swings are a part of processing the sitch and facing the fear of losing my W and my family as I've known it.
