New User - My Story

[Terapin]

I think you're doing the right thing. 180, GAL, etc are the correct moves.

I will add one word of caution, although I don't think it applies to your sitch.

For a month after W BD'd me, I did all the things we're supposed to do (GAL, acting 'as if', being upbeat, etc, etc). My W responded by being much more kind, helpful, etc. She would ask to have friends over to hang out, we got along better than we had in years. DB was working great right? Wrong.

After a month or so of that, and me thinking that we're on track to repair the M, she handed me paperwork about asset division, custody schedules, etc that she discussed with her L. I was shocked. When I pointed out to her how well we've been getting along and stuff, her reply was "I have been really happy the past month. A huge weight is off my shoulders. And since you've seemed really happy, I figured we were both on the same page in moving ahead with the divorce'.

Again, your sitch is different, and obviously all the 180s, GAL, etc are designed for YOU, not her. But the reason we're all here is 'divorce busting'. I just wonder if there's some type of balance between DB techniques, yet still letting it be known that you're still committed to saving the M.

I'm just rambling and not making much sense. lol