My intuition is to say no. I want to tell her, "That sounds fun and I would love to go, but I won't spend time with someone who spoke to me the way you did on Friday." How does that sound? I can see her reaction in my mind now: she'll bristle, tell me I'm too uptight, roll her eyes, and probably say something mean.
The correct answer is "sorry I have plans" but make sure you have plans.
Originally Posted by Maturin
And another question: in order to bust a D it would seem someone in my situation needs to re-attract my W while she also comes to a place of remorse strong enough to begin reconciling. A big dynamic would be spending time together so you can allow for attraction to emerge again. But right now there is so much disrespect that I can't bring myself to spend time with her, it doesn't seem appropriate. But the order should be to re-establish respect and then attraction, correct? Is this what is meant by being patient with the DB process?
You gain respect by not putting up with her BS and having your own fun fulfilling life.
