She did text me this morning to say she was sorry she couldn't talk last night and asked me how I was today. I haven't responded yet. I'm not sure what to do, as I want to stick with DBing and not depend on her for support. I'm mad at myself because I was doing so well with no contact...
It happens. Dust off, regroup, and make improvements going forward. In terms of responding, I'd borrow a page from the Validation thread and keep it short and simple. Something like "Good. Thanks" and that's it. Or, you might toss in something that validates you heard she was having a tough time too like "It's understandable you felt bad too" or something similar that shows you heard her. I recommend reviewing the validation thread or Googling empathy and validation statements. Good luck. Thoughtfulness and practice, practice, practice until these things become new habits.
