However I don't want to backslide and demonstrate to my wife that I am reliable plan B who will diligently BBQ prime rib and wash dishes while we entertain her family.
She knows your plan B, well in reality more like plan Z. WWs have a sixth sense and know when a LBS is really starting to detach. That's when the games begin.
This is the kind of reply that keeps my fire lit. The thought of her going out and partying for three years with the comfort of the lifestyle I provide and the stability of a MR; the idea that she had a PA and kept it to herself and a few others while I was in the dark; the fact that I was spinning my wheels trying to improve the MR while she did zero work and bathed in all the upside - it fires me up. I've been taken advantage of for years and the only path forward now is in detachment. If she wants to preserve the MR she is going to have to work for it and even then I'm not sure I want to go through the next 40 years with this person.
