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[DnJ]

Good Morning Rock

I like your future vision; what you want your life to look like. Personally, I believe those far reaching statements should be more broad. Focus too tightly, and you won’t see the opportunities that are not directly in front of you.

Also, reacting to change requires an open view. Five years ago your vision didn’t have this situation coming up. Life will happen, and things will not go as planned. Man plans, and God laughs. No setbacks or downturns are permanent defeats. And no success is an ultimate triumph. Face the first with resilience, and the latter with grace.

Now, the smaller steps along the grand journey, those have a more focused approach. More goal oriented. Definitely a miss small approach there.

What do you want your life to look like in 5 years ???

-healthy, wise, strong, confident, attractive family man with good friends who follows God sincerely, working playing and vacationing well

-in 5 years I want to have a life like DnJ’s, with a great home, feeling good about myself having strong healthy relationships with my family

-restored marriage hopefully, if not I don’t know I think in five years I would want to be single still unless God brought someone into my life that I can have a great relationship with. I would only want to proceed in that arena if I was building a great relationship whether that was with W or someone else

Some fodder for you with a couple of examples:

- strong healthy relationships with my family.

Define strong healthy. Realize family - kids, parents, etc. You interact with differently with each of them.

So, let’s consider your son and a small step/goal. How is your future vision and interactions vs the present? Room for improvement? (There always is by the way. ) Aim small. Today, call him. I’m serious! Call him. And talk to him. Listen and discuss his life. Not about you, not about Mom, just him and whatever he brings up. Let him feel he is the most important person in the world to you. For he is!


- healthy, wise, strong, confident, attractive family man.

Know thy self. Know thy convictions. Are they congruent with this definition? As needed, and continually: Strengthen that which serves, craft that which you aspire to, and discard that which does not serve.

Be a strong stable stanchion in life’s storms. Like a tree with deep roots. Strong, yet able to grow and still change. A good balance of flexible and steadfast.

These small steps/goals, like all, slowly accumulate and shifts (and inspires) one’s beliefs and life’s heading. Some of mine were and still are: Make the bed. Everyday. It starts your day on the right foot. Close the cupboard gently. No slamming. Almost silently. That gentleness grows and extends into other/all aspects of your life. A small and positive step towards that peace and contentment. Keep your word. A man’s (or woman’s) currency is their character. Walk the talk. The true measure of someone is how do they behaviour when no one would ever find out. An interesting measure is shopping carts. Some folks just leave them willy nilly in the parking lot after unloading, and some take them back to the storage rack. It speaks of a person, how they act when there is no reward, no punishment, and no enforcement. I’m pretty sure you’d guess, I always take back my cart. Rain, a foot of snow, doesn’t matter. Do the right thing. You’ve just got to define “right thing”. And life provides ample feedback.


Have a great day Rock.

D