All I can say is that when I had trouble sleeping I chalked it up to allergies and took Benadryl.
As far as dreams, I'm not sure there is anything that can be done. Dreams are caused by the subconscious. Maybe try focusing on other things while awake and the dreams about your wife will lessen. Are you in IC? If not, why not?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
