Good Morning MrP

I am doing well. Thank you for asking. It’s been a busy few weeks.

My second oldest son and DIL finally got possession of their new home and are presently moving in. My eldest son and future DIL just got engaged!! Decorating my house for Christmas. Hosting a Christmas concert and sing-a-long at my house next weekend for around 25 family and friends. Visiting friends during the holiday season.

I do recall those workplace signs: x days without an incident. smile Keep doing your best, and growing and learning, with the interactions.

I think you did pretty well during that last conversation. You did continued beyond the Christmas Eve discussion and got into her life and her choices and her control. Be cautious, that’s dangerous unstable territory.

I do get it, the process of letting go. We all require a certain amount of understanding before we can/will let go. A certain level of rationalizing is needed. Rationalization is a key component in the process of shifting things from the emotional realm to the intellectual realm. Acknowledging your feelings, and also “unfeelingly” seeing the facts of a situation.

Originally Posted by MrP
My observation is that W's confidence in her choice is wavering. Maybe it is the holidays. Maybe it is our anniversary passing. Maybe there will be a full moon tonight. My intent was just to note my observation, continue down my path…

Yep, another data point. Perfectly fine to consider her reasoning and present status and/or progress. After all, validate and empathize are some of the oft promoted lessons here.

Empathy is the ability to take on another’s viewpoint. Interestingly, empathy requires an high degree of self control and self identity; to truly know and to have clear delimitation between your and the other person’s feelings.

In my opinion, you are considering, observing, and utilizing W’s info/feedback to continue moving forward rather than remain held in place. Forward towards understanding, compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance. The big goals, regardless of martial outcome. Your path.

Have a good time at the party tomorrow.

D

Feelings are fleeting.
Be better, not bitter.
Love the person, forgive the sin.