Morning Steve. Thanks for the clarification and the chance to say I didn't take it at all as beating me up. When it comes to this community, I always assume intentions are good and helpful. You're spot on again: I'm a fixer. I want to pinpoint the root cause so that if I can do something better in the future, I will. As DnJ likes to say, I didn't break W so I can't fix her. This work is first and foremost for me and to show D13 that I'm working to be the best person possible.
And, it is like you're a mind reader. I think I've said before that I'm working on two paths at the same time. In one, the D happens. In the other, we R and piece. The old relationship and habits that got us here are dead. I can't do the things I contributed to get us here. If W is unable to do the same, I deserve better and will be content to move on. Heck I think I'd want a post-nup if W opts to R LOL so that we aren't back here again in 3 years. Phew. Again, many thanks for the food for thought. Have a great day! If only we could all meet for at least a virtual, anonymous happy hour in the metaverse one day!
