What does living your life as a single man mean to you ???
-freedom and simplicity in answering to God and myself for how I live my life. Not being shoehorned into a box I think W wants me to fit into. Being Christ centered having a strong sense of self and healthy relationships with family and others. Having unity in my family and not living a self centered life
-treating myself and others well
-being accountable to myself and those I chose to share my life with, work for and serve, in how I spend my time money and energy
-not being concerned with a relationship with a woman beyond friendships and community nor going to them for joy romantically or sexually unless I decide to start dating or courting
What does truly letting her go, look like to you ???
-making decisions and taking action for what is important for me as an individual healthy single family man rather than as her husband or to try to win her back
-having zero expectations of her and wanting the best for her but not taking responsibility for that
-being fair
What do you want your life to look like in 5 years ???
-healthy, wise, strong, confident, attractive family man with good friends who follows God sincerely, working playing and vacationing well
-in 5 years I want to have a life like DnJ’s, with a great home, feeling good about myself having strong healthy relationships with my family
-restored marriage hopefully, if not I don’t know I think in five years I would want to be single still unless God brought someone into my life that I can have a great relationship with. I would only want to proceed in that arena if I was building a great relationship whether that was with W or someone else
-legal representation and financial advisor to plan to buy W out of house
-preventive health care, reaching out for help (therapy, church community, family, friends, these boards)
-detaching from W, moving in opposite direction from her
What fears are holding you back from truly moving forward for you ???
-I am afraid of W gaining an upper hand and taking more from me and our family. I have taken power back from her for me but I give too much thought and emotional energy to her still
-I am afraid of OM moving here to be her partner in our city. I am detaching as well as I can but indifference remains elusive for me
-I am afraid of my kids being unwell
What are you so F-N afraid of ????
-afraid I will be psychologically reinjured in my work or unsuccessful in other ways with my work
-still afraid at times of being alone if I’m being honest though I have a lot more confidence that I will be fine. I am not alone I have great friends and family
