Second roller coaster ride (part 3)

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Just left another IC session, my first since October. Primary topics were:

1. I know I need to be single for a while, but know my tendency is to jump to the next R. Can't do that this time. We talked about some of the specific needs and how to work through them. It's okay to feel the desire to have a companion, to feel that, but then to acknowledge why it's not good for me, my life and my kids right now. She recommended a book to me that's apparently heavy work, but potentially rewarding: You Are the One You've Been Waiting For. It can potentially help me learn more about myself, things that started in my formative years. Some of it I'm already aware of, but I'm hoping it will uncover some new things.

2. We talked about how I'm stuck at my career. I think it stems from complacency everywhere in my life. I feel strong motivation to change. Either a new company with the same job, a new engineering career path, or something completely different. She suggested using the weeks I don't have either kid to have scheduled days that I have earmarked for this. Maybe it's Tuesdays, and I use that evening to update a resume, etc. She also gave me a contact for a career coach that will help polish a resume and other things.

3. She suggested making a vision board and described what that process looks like. Supposed to help uncover what you really want. Said "it's not for everyone" but I'm going to give it a try when I don't have the kids around.