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[Ready2Change]

I lately have been wondering if I should have followed Kind’s option A of putting W’s things in storage last year and giving her my L’s contact info. I didn’t and here I am still going through a lot of crap.

"The stove is hot. If you touch the stove, you will burn your hand."

"I am wondering if I should have listened to Kinds advice about touching the stove. I didn't and my hand is still getting burned."


Obviously you have special needs children. I am not sure where you and your wife fall on the spectrum. You can either learn from your own experiences and make changes to your behavior, or you can learn from other peoples experiences. I have found that learning from other peoples experiences is better. My understanding is that you are religious. The Bible has insight into human behavior and how to make positive changes as well.

The way you interact with your W is not attractive to her. If it was, than she would be pursuing you sexually. Until you interact with her different, her attraction will not change. You have at least 10 guys giving you words of wisdom that they have learned this though the DBing process.

Slowly changing is death by 1000's cuts. Grab the low hanging fruit and make significant changes as quickly as you can.

Obviously you are not the only one that reads and may benefit from the reply's to your thread. You are one of the many starfish on the beach. Hopefully the others keep posting even if you keep crawling back out of the water.