Rock, I've been here for a while, not as long as some others but a while. Occasionally we get posters here that want to use the board for a sounding board. A kind of interactive journal. They want to save their marriage, but they don't truly trust the methods espoused here. They want to hear feedback and advice but then they decide they are going to go their own direction and just do what comes instinctively. What they really want is a magic bullet: the one thing they can do or say that will fix everything overnight. However, no such magic bullet exists.

Here are what they have in common:

-They struggle more than most newbies here.
-Their situations,v and especially their limbo period, lasts much longer.
-They almost always the up divorced, but not before a lot more pain and mental anguish that could have been avoided.

You are falling into that same trap. Maybe you just want to use the board as a journal. That's fine, let us know that so we understand. But for your sake I hope you decide to get serious about DBing. I don't think you've ever fully embraced it. I'm fact, when was the last time you read the book?

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018