I am really trying. I can tell it is all just projection but it is hard to not defend or at least want to try and explain yourself. I can take a good ass chewing when I know it is my fault but it has always been a hard thing for me when people are convinced I am doing stuff that I am not. He txted about 6 hours later to say dinner was ready and I just did a simple OK reply. I got home and for the first time since he has been home he cleaned the kitchen and reorganized some stuff and got groceries and made dinner. I tried to just stay busy with the kids and in my room. he was still a bit ugly and not picky but he kept trying to get me places to see what he had done. I gave him a simple thank you. Of course i have been swamped with work and so I have been praying he would help at the house some because I am so overwhelmed. and acts of service especially when I am overwhelmed is definitely my love language. But I still gust tried and staid dim. normally I would be telling him how thankful I am that he helped but to be honest it is normal household stuff like taking cafe of the kids and help in the house so it is more like him bread crumbing me, He has always done that when he steps over the line and then goes right back into it. just trying to dig in my basement for any more patients. thank you
